Freezing Nights at Lighthouse

In case you missed it, we wanted to share the announcement with you that Lighthouse is partnering with Freezing Nights, a Christian ministry here in Puyallup that gives the homeless a warm place to stay from 7 p.m. to 7 a.m. during the months of November through March.

Please watch this video with more information from Pastors Art & Brandon:

For more information, visit


Spiritual Leadership

Happy New Year Group Leaders! Pastor Ryan has an encouraging message for you about spiritual leadership. Please have a look.

Have a great weekend!

The People of God

What does it mean for us to be the people of God? I have some thoughts, and suggestions on how you can shepherd your [home, learning and fun] group members to not just learn about God, but to really become people of God. Check out the video.

If you’d like more information about becoming a Circles Ally, click here:



Last year, Lighthouse presented the first in a series of workshops focused on its purpose to be a Christ-centered community, reaching out every day to make more and better disciples. This time, Pastors Art and Tony will lead a workshop focused on disciplining and hot topics.

Have you thought about what you would do as a home group leader in a situation if a difficult subject came up, and you really don’t know how to handle it? As a learning group instructor, how would you handle the topic of evolution? As a fun group facilitator, would you be prepared to talk about Christianity and the LGBTQ community?

Maybe you would have no idea what to say – no knowledge base at all about the topic. Or maybe you have some knowledge about the topic, but don’t know how to communicate about it. Whether a subject is hot, cold or lukewarm there is an approach to take that will help you help your disciplee move ahead spiritually. And it won’t be based primarily on your extensive knowledge base, but on your ability to have a good spiritual discussion as a spiritual friend. More & Better II will help you learn how to handle conversations around hot topics with those you are discipling.

The workshop takes place on Saturday, November 12 from 9 a.m. to 11:15 a.m. Childcare for infants through kindergarten is available with pre-registration. Sign up today by clicking the following link:

What A Leader Does

If you’ve never read the blog Church & Culture, I highly recommend you check it out sometime. The recent article “What A Leader Does” was so good I wanted to share with you to consider for the upcoming season.



What is it, exactly, that a leader does?

We are bombarded with directives to be leaders and lead our church, and we’re told that everything rises and falls on leadership… okay, what does that actually mean?

I was once challenged to pull together a description of what being a leader actually involves on a day-in, day-out basis. I found it to be an intriguing exercise because, in truth, most leadership books talk about how to do certain leadership functions well but rarely lay out the leadership menu.

Here’s the menu:

1. Cast a Compelling Vision

This involves seeing all that could be and should be and painting that picture clearly enough for others to get there. And remember that “vision leaks” so this vision must be recast on an annual basis.

2. Draw Others In

Have you heard of something called the “art of the ask?” This is seeing someone and envisioning what they can become – imagining what they can do with their life, spotting their talents and abilities – and then asking them to put their life into play for Christ.

“I think you could be a small group leader.” “I think you could head up a building team.” “I think you could oversee a media ministry.” “I think you could help administratively.” “I think you could sing.”

These are the words a leader offers.

3. Establish and Uphold Values

At Mecklenburg Community Church (Meck), we have ten macro values. They need to be upheld, modeled, championed, and defended. But there are also micro values.

For children’s ministry, it might be arriving on time or calling in if you can’t make it. For a small group leader, it might be the “empty chair,” meaning that there is always a place – and a desire – for someone new to join. For someone in student ministry, it might be never letting a kid be excluded from the group.

When it comes to values, a leader must establish them, model them, and then uphold them.

Let’s say I ask you to build relationships with the unchurched. If I don’t do it myself, I have no credibility. You never lead from title or position but from moral authority. There’s an old line I’m sure you’ve heard: “Speed of the leader, speed of the pack.” It’s true.

And after you establish the values through word and deed, you have to uphold them. This means you catch people living by them, and you praise them and make them an example to others.

4. Bring Everything into Alignment

This is often talked about in business circles but less so in church circles. Alignment is translating values, purpose, mission and goals into the very fabric of what you are trying to do on a day-in, day-out basis. It’s having what you do line up with what you say you’re trying to do.

It’s having every little decision informed by the big picture of what you’re trying to accomplish. Alignment is what lets a leader make a decision – to know what to say “yes” or “no” to.

It helps us think creatively about what to start, what to stop, what to create, what to change, what to continue, and where we need to experiment or innovate.

5. Let Others Play in the Game

At the most basic level, this is just learning how to delegate, which surprisingly few people ever really learn to do. The key to delegation is simple: Do only what you can do. Delegate everything else.

That’s hard for people. Whether it’s due to fear that it won’t be done right, inhibition about imposing on someone, being controlling, or enjoying manifesting a martyr complex, we hold on to things and will die in a pile doing them.

But even harder than delegation is letting others play on the team.

Delegation is letting someone serve you while you play and do your thing, and we all need to do that. But beyond that is bringing others in and letting them actually play in the game – and score!

6. Influence

Leaders should motivate, inspire, and encourage.

To motivate means to get people going, to make them want to achieve more and go further. Motivation is having fire and then having everyone else catch fire with you.

To inspire someone is different – it is calling them out to be more than they are. It is helping them want to live differently, to give their lives to something more. Think of it this way: I can be around someone who motivates me to use my time better, manage my money better, or stay in shape better – all motivational issues – but it takes something else to have me walk away wanting to love more, care more and serve more.

But then a leader throws in the third ingredient: encouragement. One of the biggest truths is that what gets recognized, what gets praised, and what gets encouraged is what gets done. In fact, studies have found that verbal affirmation is more valuable to people than money.

7. Develop Other Leaders

Effective leaders create a leadership culture that develops those around them. As you build your teams, you should be singling out a small group of people from within that team that you are grooming and equipping for leadership.

The more leaders you develop, the more leaders you unleash.

The more leaders are unleashed, the more the church reaches its full redemptive potential.

James Emery White


Adapted from James Emery White, What They Didn’t Teach You in Seminary: 25 Lessons for Successful Ministry in Your Church (Baker). Available on Amazon.

Welcome to Spring!

A new season is upon us which means some of you may be experiencing change and transition. Please watch this video:

If there’s anything that I can do to help you in your ministry in shepherding others, please leave a comment below or send me an email.

Slow Movement in Leading A Home Group

How is leading a home group similar to a slow moving glacier? Watch this video for some insight.

Attending the More & Better workshop on Saturday, February 20 will provide some instruction and tips about how to carve out the landscape of your home group and cultivate a culture of discipleship. Register to attend online at

Happy New Year

As we enter a new season I’d like to remind you of a couple of important upcoming dates.


The More & Better Discipleship Workshop is Saturday, February 20, 2016 from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m.

This workshop provides a practical plan for every leader who wants to help the people they serve to take the next step of spiritual growth. Discipleship will be demystified, offering a clear design for helping someone grow as a disciple. If you serve at Lighthouse – whether you’re an experienced leader or someone who has never discipled another believer – More and Better is for you. This two-and-a-half hour workshop is a practical resource, spurring one another on, to a life of love and service to God.

BONUS – the first 75 people who register and attend the workshop will receive a free copy of Multiply by Francis Chan and Mark Beuving. This book is one of the resources we will recommend at the workshop and is specially designed to use in discipleship relationships. Childcare is available for children through Kindergarten age with pre-registration. Register online here.


Groups Leaders Retreat is Saturday, April 9, 2016 from 8 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.

Details coming soon, save the date!


I wish you all a safe and Happy New Year celebration!


Save These Dates!


I invite you to join Pastor Art, Pastor Paul and myself for two half-day training workshops about discipleship. As a group leader, I strongly encourage you to attend. Our goal is to equip you with skills, encouragement and confidence to be a disciple to your peers in the groups you lead and in the community.

Mark your calendars for:

  • Saturday, October 17th from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m.
  • Saturday , February 20th from 9 a.m. to 12 p.m.

We’ve also selected a date for our 2016 Group Leaders Retreat! Save the date for:

  • Saturday, April 9th from 8 a.m. to 3:30 p.m.

Benjamin Franklin famously said “Tell me and I forget, teach me and I may remember, involve me and I learn.” I look forward to learning with you!